Cut the chitchat – carry a dossier everywhere!
Reading a post at BornEntrepreneur.com titled Deep, Meaningful SMALL Talk, made me remember one of the reasons I started blogging and making information about myself public: If I blog consistency and others do the same then perhaps we’ll reduce then need for general confab, allowing me/us to get talking about something of value asap.
Online profiles help, but not in real time. I wish that when I met a new person they could just pass me some sort of beefed-up “about me” that included their backgroud, job, goals, education, etc. Having to ask questions to get that information can really take a while – and most of the time we don’t have it. What else would that document include?
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thom singer 11:55 am on January 5, 2008 Permalink |
I think that chit chat is a normal part of being human. Without it can we really build a relationship? Sure, getting straight to business is a great idea, but it leaves me feeling cold.
Look at your personal relationships. What if when you met your girlfriend she handed you a document: favorite color, ideal day, restaurant menu choices, color of undergaments, wildest dreams, daily chores, favorite flavors scents and types of movies, etc… Then you could skip all the chit chat and just go to bed. Not really what makes building a relationship with someone extra special. A world without the discovery would be like an arranged marriage….heck, why not, her blog makes her sound compatible!
The same is true of business friendships/relationships. A real bond is only built through the mutual getting to know eachother and sharing. I can’t imagine skipping this step with my those who I really want in my professional life any more than with those in my personal life. To move from a stranger to a real part of someones network you need 7-10 meaningful interactions. You can’t fast-pass on this.
thom singer 10:55 am on January 5, 2008 Permalink |
I think that chit chat is a normal part of being human. Without it can we really build a relationship? Sure, getting straight to business is a great idea, but it leaves me feeling cold.
Look at your personal relationships. What if when you met your girlfriend she handed you a document: favorite color, ideal day, restaurant menu choices, color of undergaments, wildest dreams, daily chores, favorite flavors scents and types of movies, etc… Then you could skip all the chit chat and just go to bed. Not really what makes building a relationship with someone extra special. A world without the discovery would be like an arranged marriage….heck, why not, her blog makes her sound compatible!
The same is true of business friendships/relationships. A real bond is only built through the mutual getting to know eachother and sharing. I can't imagine skipping this step with my those who I really want in my professional life any more than with those in my personal life. To move from a stranger to a real part of someones network you need 7-10 meaningful interactions. You can't fast-pass on this.