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  • John Erik 2:37 am on April 18, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: job hunting, , linkedin, Millennials, notchup, Transparency   

    Millennial job hunting – Q&A 

    Last weekend during the Startup Barhunt I made a new friend. Her name is Archana and she is thee most startup-savvy UT student I know. What does startup-savvy mean? She knew everything that was going on in the tech world, from gossip and people, to new technology and services.

    Today she asked me to answer a survey for a project she’s working on. I had a great time answering the questions. If you want to take a stab at answering all or some of ‘em, DO IT. I’m sure it would help her out. Enjoy!

    1. How did you find your current job? Online? Networking? Company website? Job fair?

    Hmmmmm… I don’t have a job really – no one employees me. :-\
    But! If that was the case, I would have got the job online – that’s how I found radar.net when I was in school. They had a facebook ad looking for a young, mobile savvy student. I clicked and it asked me to write them a letter about how savvy I was, how connected I was, and why I love tech…

    2. Have you ever searched for jobs online? If so, how?

    For sure. Don’t think I’ve looked any other way. I’ve looked at http://www.ventureloop.com and http://startupers.com/jobs/ to see what’s goin on. I’ve looked on craigslist in the past. Umm.. I looked at monster one or two times. People can find me now. Via linkedin or http://notchup.com

    3. Do you have a LinkedIn account?

    For sheezee.

    4. What do you use in LinkedIn?

    Um. Everything. Even though I’ve only asked one, I think the Q&A feature is killer. I asked a question about following money or passion over Christmas and got 30+ answers/messages. That kind of feedback was amazing.

    5. How do you manage your impression online?

    My outward appearance? I am who I am. I write casually like I am here. I try and post everything I do so people can get a good sense of who I am. I want people to be engaged in my life. I want to set the example for how I want others to document their life. I love knowing what’s going on with my friends and others. I have… oh, next question.

    6. Have you ever altered your image online, like “untagging” photos?

    Untagged, YES. But not often anymore. It was mostly pics of when I was in college and chugging tons of beers. I still have some of those, but because I don’t post that many pics on facebook anymore, it would seem I was still doing the same thing.

    7. Have you ever asked or been asked by an employer about your online activity on sites such as Facebook or MySpace?

    NOPE. But no one employees me. When I was working (interning) fb wasn’t that popular.

    8. How do you network?

    By writing people emails that make them think. And by going out to places where I can meet them. By always staying up-to-date with what’s going on in the bubble that I care about. And some other bubbles. Using Twitter.

    9. Do you use business cards?

    YES

    10. Have you ever applied for a job that did not require any online activity? For example, you were asked to mail in your application.

    NO

    11. In your opinion, what is the best way to find your first job out of college?

    Depends what kind of job you want. And if you want a job.
    Read the book Never Send A Resume. It’s short, I read it in a Borders.
    I’d say, make relationships. Go meet people, email them. Email the leaders, only start at the bottom and work your way up if you have to. Even if you do have to, keep emailing/starting conversations with people who you respect, who you can empathize with. Help them empathize with you and they will help you. Only take a job that you are going to love. You’re gonna have to look and look and look so you better start now. It will all be worth it though – think of it as your contribution to the world, this is you giving back. How does that work? If you are in a place where you are happy, the world overall will be that much happier. Your vote (happiness) counts!

     

    • Damon Clinkscales 10:10 pm on April 20, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Hey John

      I am liking what I am seeing from you in following you online. Keep up the energy. Hope to meet you sometime soon.

    • Damon Clinkscales 10:10 pm on April 20, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Hey John

      I am liking what I am seeing from you in following you online. Keep up the energy. Hope to meet you sometime soon.

    • John Erik 6:21 am on April 22, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      looking forward to meeting you as well!

    • John Erik 6:21 am on April 22, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      looking forward to meeting you as well!

  • John Erik 4:54 pm on March 3, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , outreach, social networking, Transparency   

    Question about digital outreach 

    Via social media, people are sharing more and more online. The aggregation of their various profiles (facebook, myspace, friendfeed, etc.) can create a near mirror reflection of their real world actions and feelings.

    We have the power to empathize better then ever, to understand people in a new light. How can we use that to preempt mental downswings, specifically in kids?

    Thinking here: You can’t just watch over and swoop in every time you see something negative. What is the balance? Should we have social workers trolling profiles for “signs.” Will we just develop the sense to tell if someone is having a hard time. I’m talking about preventing tragic events – every time they happen it seems it was all over the students profile. right. So what can we do?

    –

    Thanks to Skyler for getting me thinking about this again. And to Danah and Bambi for chatting a while back.  Outreach20.org is a site I made a while back about this.

     

    • David Giesberg 6:27 pm on March 3, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      That is an interesting thought – wouldn’t monitoring through social networking be problematic because as you say, our online experience mirrors our experience in the real world. After many tragedies everyone says they never saw the signs. Do you think they might be more visible online than in the real world?

    • David Giesberg 5:27 pm on March 3, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      That is an interesting thought – wouldn't monitoring through social networking be problematic because as you say, our online experience mirrors our experience in the real world. After many tragedies everyone says they never saw the signs. Do you think they might be more visible online than in the real world?

    • Todd Sundsted 10:27 am on March 5, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      It’s an interesting question. Much of the information is publicly available, so there’s nothing to stop parents, friends, teachers, social workers, from digging in (and taking action). However, I wonder what the ultimate effect would be on making this information public — would the people in question stop being so open. Only time will tell, I suspect.

      For what it’s worth, I happen to live in the community where the three students who did all the church burnings in 2006 came from. One facet of the case was the fact that their MySpace pages painted a very different picture of who they were (inside?) than their public persona. It was eye-opening.

      Todd

    • Todd Sundsted 9:27 am on March 5, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      It's an interesting question. Much of the information is publicly available, so there's nothing to stop parents, friends, teachers, social workers, from digging in (and taking action). However, I wonder what the ultimate effect would be on making this information public — would the people in question stop being so open. Only time will tell, I suspect.

      For what it's worth, I happen to live in the community where the three students who did all the church burnings in 2006 came from. One facet of the case was the fact that their MySpace pages painted a very different picture of who they were (inside?) than their public persona. It was eye-opening.

      Todd

  • John Erik 10:57 pm on February 16, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Transparency,   

    Thoughts on managers/execs 

    Thanks to http://notanmba.com and Todd’s comment for getting me thinking like this.

    As an outsider (corporate outsider, that is), it seems unbelievable to me that managers don’t make a point to communicate/get to know their team. I can understand the desire to keep secrets/keep things non-transparent, but I liken that to being a wimp. A pushover. And other terms. That’s just weak. If you are the best, you should have nothing to worry about, challenge that. Be the best. Let your guard down and ask questions.

    Here’s something I was talking about with my uncle yesterday: You get into upper management because you are a gal/guy who can get things done. You got there because you are a top performer. Now you’re leading a group and you think you have to continue doing the same thing. So, you crack the whip and push your team hard. You work 90hrs vs 60 because “you know best.” Nothing happens.

    Here’s what I think: Rethink the position you are in. A great manager/exec is a coach/a teacher. You’re not there to continue doing what you did. You’re there to teach your whole team how to achieve, like you used to. To do this successfully, be a good teacher you have to stop doing, doing, doing and start talking, communicating, getting to know your team, understanding why each of them do things the way they do. Allow yourself to empathize with them, and they with you.

    This is good for two reasons. 1. If they can see themselves within you, and they respect you, it will encourage them, motivate them. 2. If you can empathize with them then you can understand their intentions. Understanding their intentions is like understanding their thought process.

    Where did I come up with this response? I thought about what I learned from the ad industry: How to reach and know your target market. …The same principles apply to so many domains. Listen. Communicate. Ask questions. Achieve empathy.

     

    • Skyler 12:58 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      If you gathered all the literature on the ‘net, went to every conference in the nation, skimmed every blog with any hits whatsoever on the subject of ‘keys to success’, and then read BETWEEN the lines, you would see the word empathy etched everywhere.

      Empathy is the epicenter of connection. It is the cement of a strong friendship. It is the sneeze of virility in the figurative sense.

      Within psychology, and especially within clinical therapy circles, it could be argued that the grounds exist to start a Church in the name of Empathy. It is not a new concept, nor is it unfamiliar, but for many reasons its importance is downplayed time and time again in the mainstream, so that in the end we’re paying $200 an hour to have someone help us get to know our wife of 12 years, to settle an argument over property, or to sit in an auditorium as a ‘people’ person describes the secrets to a six-figure income.

      But, as with anything that is popularly misunderstood, empathy is a two-edged sword. Does empathizing with friends and family strengthen relationships? Absolutely. Does getting to know your employees (your employer) and your potential customers help? Of course. But the strength of the empathic connection can make or break the deal.

      In a world of instant gratification, polling, misunderstood thin-slicing, and misrepresented statistics, some people can make decisions with too little empathy, or, for those in power, with too MUCH empathy. Those who use too little are left scratching their heads when confronted with the virility solution, and those with the resources to gain a lot of empathy can wield it to sell used car ‘lemons’, convince them to put toys with lead in them on store shelves, or frame political speeches so that issues are played down and religious values are played up. Venturing into opinionated here, so I’ll slow down hoping you get the point.

      Being suddenly thrust into the Marketing world, I look forward to using Empathy to solve problems, strengthen friendships, and see peoples’ lifestyles in a different, more accepting way every day. This, after all, was something I looked forward to using as an aspiring psychotherapist. Seeing failed ad campaigns, domestic and workplace disputes, and billions being lost in productivity due to spam each year as companies and applications try to ‘penetrate the market’, I would love for empathy to lead a new world order in the way people connect with each other, both in person and virtually. My fear, however, is that someone does find the formula, and empathy’s role is streamlined efficiently into every effort in all industries.

      In my opinion, it won’t happen in the near future. It won’t happen because Facebook and Google are carefully tabulating every action and purchase you’ve ever made and compiling databases. It won’t be because people move into ‘smart’ houses in which every product inside is seen and registered, and it won’t be from the ads that result from the tabulations of these data. Rest assured, someone is working on it right now though. For some, it’s like a physicist working on a perpetual motion machine, but for others it’s a code that will be cracked. What happens when that day comes? My fear is that we see the dark side of empathy when it’s already too late. Just as with word of mouth, advertising has found a vein of gold when mining the human psyche, and now hundreds of millions are spent each year on tapping the power of word of mouth. When people discover that the trustworthiness of people spreading word of mouth has been tainted, it potentially does deep damage to society as a whole. What happens when the sanctity of empathy is used up in the same way?

      My hope is that the fields of advertising, science, technology, and psychology converge at one point to realize exactly how much they overlap, and future efforts take into account the potential damage they can have in terms of immediate impact as well as future generations. When depression rates continue to rise, and peoples’ trust and personal relationships continue to suffer for apparently unknown reasons, what will we do then?

      I don’t know, but I hear the new Macbook Air is awesome.

    • Skyler 11:58 pm on February 16, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      If you gathered all the literature on the 'net, went to every conference in the nation, skimmed every blog with any hits whatsoever on the subject of 'keys to success', and then read BETWEEN the lines, you would see the word empathy etched everywhere.

      Empathy is the epicenter of connection. It is the cement of a strong friendship. It is the sneeze of virility in the figurative sense.

      Within psychology, and especially within clinical therapy circles, it could be argued that the grounds exist to start a Church in the name of Empathy. It is not a new concept, nor is it unfamiliar, but for many reasons its importance is downplayed time and time again in the mainstream, so that in the end we're paying $200 an hour to have someone help us get to know our wife of 12 years, to settle an argument over property, or to sit in an auditorium as a 'people' person describes the secrets to a six-figure income.

      But, as with anything that is popularly misunderstood, empathy is a two-edged sword. Does empathizing with friends and family strengthen relationships? Absolutely. Does getting to know your employees (your employer) and your potential customers help? Of course. But the strength of the empathic connection can make or break the deal.

      In a world of instant gratification, polling, misunderstood thin-slicing, and misrepresented statistics, some people can make decisions with too little empathy, or, for those in power, with too MUCH empathy. Those who use too little are left scratching their heads when confronted with the virility solution, and those with the resources to gain a lot of empathy can wield it to sell used car 'lemons', convince them to put toys with lead in them on store shelves, or frame political speeches so that issues are played down and religious values are played up. Venturing into opinionated here, so I'll slow down hoping you get the point.

      Being suddenly thrust into the Marketing world, I look forward to using Empathy to solve problems, strengthen friendships, and see peoples' lifestyles in a different, more accepting way every day. This, after all, was something I looked forward to using as an aspiring psychotherapist. Seeing failed ad campaigns, domestic and workplace disputes, and billions being lost in productivity due to spam each year as companies and applications try to 'penetrate the market', I would love for empathy to lead a new world order in the way people connect with each other, both in person and virtually. My fear, however, is that someone does find the formula, and empathy's role is streamlined efficiently into every effort in all industries.

      In my opinion, it won't happen in the near future. It won't happen because Facebook and Google are carefully tabulating every action and purchase you've ever made and compiling databases. It won't be because people move into 'smart' houses in which every product inside is seen and registered, and it won't be from the ads that result from the tabulations of these data. Rest assured, someone is working on it right now though. For some, it's like a physicist working on a perpetual motion machine, but for others it's a code that will be cracked. What happens when that day comes? My fear is that we see the dark side of empathy when it's already too late. Just as with word of mouth, advertising has found a vein of gold when mining the human psyche, and now hundreds of millions are spent each year on tapping the power of word of mouth. When people discover that the trustworthiness of people spreading word of mouth has been tainted, it potentially does deep damage to society as a whole. What happens when the sanctity of empathy is used up in the same way?

      My hope is that the fields of advertising, science, technology, and psychology converge at one point to realize exactly how much they overlap, and future efforts take into account the potential damage they can have in terms of immediate impact as well as future generations. When depression rates continue to rise, and peoples' trust and personal relationships continue to suffer for apparently unknown reasons, what will we do then?

      I don't know, but I hear the new Macbook Air is awesome.

    • Todd Sundsted 1:53 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      This is great, guys!

      I’m not going to try to address the entire thread but I will add one comment.

      I try to emphasize the difference between a “leader” and a “manager”. John, you just described a “leader”. In my opinion, we have too many managers and too many good people trying to move up into “management”–it’s not that great a role. I want to see people strive to be great leaders.

    • Todd Sundsted 12:53 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      This is great, guys!

      I'm not going to try to address the entire thread but I will add one comment.

      I try to emphasize the difference between a “leader” and a “manager”. John, you just described a “leader”. In my opinion, we have too many managers and too many good people trying to move up into “management”–it's not that great a role. I want to see people strive to be great leaders.

    • John Erik 2:10 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      isn’t a manager a leader. ?? shouldn’t that be the case?

    • John Erik 1:10 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      isn't a manager a leader. ?? shouldn't that be the case?

    • Julie Gomoll 2:29 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Management is about the business – about getting things done. Leadership is about the people – it’s about motivation and inspiration.

    • Julie Gomoll 1:29 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Management is about the business – about getting things done. Leadership is about the people – it's about motivation and inspiration.

    • John Erik 2:44 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Perhaps I’m wrong. Wouldn’t you expect a manager to be a leader. Would you be worried about there being too many leaders, then. Is being a leader reserved for executives?

    • John Erik 1:44 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Perhaps I'm wrong. Wouldn't you expect a manager to be a leader. Would you be worried about there being too many leaders, then. Is being a leader reserved for executives?

    • John Erik 2:50 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Skyler, thank you so much for the feedback/insight/story.

      I see what you mean in the story. How empathy may be used for manipulation. My dad always tells me how crazy advertising is today. How prescription drug commercials are amazing. He can’t believe kids are being exposed to such a thing…

      Since we’re looking into the future. Let’s talk about how it can be used for good.

      We have people sharing more and more online. The aggregation of their various profiles can create a near mirror reflection of their real world actions and feelings. We have the power to empathize better then ever, to understand in a new light. How can we use that to preempt mental downswings, specifically in kids?

      You can’t just watch over and swoop in every time you see something negative. What is the balance? Should we have social workers trolling profiles for “signs.” Will we just develop the sense to tell if someone is having a hard time. I’m talking about preventing tragic events – every time they happen it seems it was all over the students profile. right

    • John Erik 1:50 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Skyler, thank you so much for the feedback/insight/story.

      I see what you mean in the story. How empathy may be used for manipulation. My dad always tells me how crazy advertising is today. How prescription drug commercials are amazing. He can't believe kids are being exposed to such a thing…

      Since we're looking into the future. Let's talk about how it can be used for good.

      We have people sharing more and more online. The aggregation of their various profiles can create a near mirror reflection of their real world actions and feelings. We have the power to empathize better then ever, to understand in a new light. How can we use that to preempt mental downswings, specifically in kids?

      You can't just watch over and swoop in every time you see something negative. What is the balance? Should we have social workers trolling profiles for “signs.” Will we just develop the sense to tell if someone is having a hard time. I'm talking about preventing tragic events – every time they happen it seems it was all over the students profile. right

    • Julie Gomoll 2:55 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Leadership can be found at all levels. Think revolutionaries and pioneers.

      Dictators are often excellent managers.

      (I recognize these are extremes)

    • Julie Gomoll 1:55 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Leadership can be found at all levels. Think revolutionaries and pioneers.

      Dictators are often excellent managers.

      (I recognize these are extremes)

    • Julie Gomoll 3:00 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      AND…

      Ideally, managers are leaders and leaders are managers. It’s jut not always the case.

    • Julie Gomoll 2:00 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      AND…

      Ideally, managers are leaders and leaders are managers. It's jut not always the case.

    • Todd Sundsted 3:10 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      You may be trying to cut the distinction too fine. I like Julie’s definitions — they’re very close to how I think. And an effective businessperson needs to be able to do both to some degree. Problems occur when you try to “manage” people the same way you “manage” projects.

      I suppose, depending on how you define leader, you could have too many leaders. In the coaching/teaching/communicating sense you describe, however, I don’t think it’s a problem in practice.

      I don’t think leadership is reserved for executives.

      Good questions. Someone needs to tackle Skyler’s comments, though.

    • Todd Sundsted 2:10 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      You may be trying to cut the distinction too fine. I like Julie's definitions — they're very close to how I think. And an effective businessperson needs to be able to do both to some degree. Problems occur when you try to “manage” people the same way you “manage” projects.

      I suppose, depending on how you define leader, you could have too many leaders. In the coaching/teaching/communicating sense you describe, however, I don't think it's a problem in practice.

      I don't think leadership is reserved for executives.

      Good questions. Someone needs to tackle Skyler's comments, though.

    • John Erik 3:36 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      I probably am, Todd. …Just trying to figure out the landscape.

    • John Erik 2:36 am on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      I probably am, Todd. …Just trying to figure out the landscape.

    • Kevin 3:37 pm on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      well said Skyrog. very.

    • Kevin 2:37 pm on February 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      well said Skyrog. very.

  • John Erik 1:59 am on January 30, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Transparency   

    MOLI – who cares about privacy, feels like AOL 

    moli.pngI almost erased this blog because I didn’t want this company to get any press, good or bad.

    MOLI.com, has anyone heard of this site? I just learned about it from the DEMO website. So, it was started by the founder of E*TRADE, him and some other early investors put up 29.25M. Recently they raised another 29.6M from, among others, the two founders of Home Depot (huh?).

    DEMO says they have no primary competitors – listing Facebook, mySpace, and Linkedin as secondary. The reason, MOLI allows you to have multiple profiles under the same login. uhh, that’s not that different. I’m pretty sure this would be an easy move for Facebook to implement – ask users “Hey, have more that one account – enter the email address you used to create that account and we’ll link ‘em up. We’ll never share with anyone that your accounts are linked! (small print: But, we’ll know and so will our advertisers and everyone else we sell data to!)

    covibelive.pngI signed up for an account with MOLI and after a few minutes all I could think was “OMG it’s AOL.” It’s a huge nonorganic network for everything.

    The layout is hip – kinda feels like a less refined VIRB – and they do have a cool feature called CoVibeLive (patent pending) that shows you statistics of the people who’ve visited your page. It looks like they spent a lot producing the site – dark tones and gradients are everywhere. All this slick and cool doesn’t mean speed though, it takes a while to load – if you’re gonna have all that, have some AJAX goin on to limit the need to refresh.

    TechCrunch, GigaOm, and Webware are are all very nice to MOLI in their reviews. Where they paid? heh There is a lot of talk about the site being for adults – doesn’t feel like it. There is a video tutorial where an overly excited twentysomething makes jokes and talks mostly about privacy controls (Which to me just seem like a joke – I don’t care about privacy, I want people and companies to know who I am personally. If I was to work anywhere I would want them to look at my facebook/myspace/flickr/radar/twitter and say “yeah, he’d fit in our culture” – what’s up with this separation, what a pain in the ass — if you’re worried about this take Tim’s advise)

    We’ll see what happens. They have ~60M to burn through, lots ads, commercial content and a couple paid services that let you turn your profile into an online store.

     

    • Dave 12:47 am on February 5, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      great review of the service. Seems to me like they may be throwing a bunch of money into simply because “it’s what all the kids are doing nowadays.” I know what you mean about not needing/wanting privacy. But I think you may be in the extreme minority of people out there.

    • Dave 11:47 pm on February 4, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      great review of the service. Seems to me like they may be throwing a bunch of money into simply because “it's what all the kids are doing nowadays.” I know what you mean about not needing/wanting privacy. But I think you may be in the extreme minority of people out there.

  • John Erik 2:50 am on January 8, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: blogging, openness, social media, thom singer, Transparency   

    As a millennial, where I want relationships to begin 

    timeline.jpg

    Thom Singer (who btw has a new book on the way) left an excellent comment on my “Cut the chitchat – carry a dossier everywhere!” post. because my response is so long, i figured i’d make it a post. you can read his original comment here.

    –

    i do see you’re point tom. i would never give up the time i’ve spent getting to know my girlfriend – those getting to know you talks were and still are the very best.

    >>>however, not all relationships are built/formed in the real world. you and i may have had only one interaction in the real world, but i feel like i know you quite well from reading your blog, receiving your tweets, and looking at your linkedin profile. (jonray even better – i wish i was as transparent as him.)

    this doesn’t mean that when i see you again i’m gonna give you a big hug, but i will know you much better than i did.
    i’m not suggesting that we forgo face-to-face relationship development, i’m suggesting we kick start it by getting the simple stuff out of the way – the profile stuff. i wish new people i meet in the real world could just hand me a piece of paper that says everything about them (i’m just gonna google them later). …doing this does not bypass growth, it enhances it and allows us to get even closer, faster.

    if the level/closeness of a relationship is on a number line and 0 represents a complete stranger and 30 is knowing their birthday and their wife’s name, it may take 7 real world interactions just to get to 60. what happens when we reach 100? it doesn’t just end, it keeps going, we get to know each other better and better. and that’s where things like trust and confidence can happen. where they can take on a new standard. that’s where you want to be.

    this is a little off, but let’s use a father-son relationship as an example. i let my dad in on everything and i have kick started it by allowing him access to my photos, profiles, writings, etc.. stuff he would never have dreamt of telling his parents. because of this, he is able be a dad on a deeper level. to give me guidance in situations where none would have existed had we not gotten lower level things out of the way.

    sharing brings people closer and closer, and there’s no ceiling on that. i agree, perhaps some things like color of undergarments need to be left out initially, but maybe not.

    we can’t escape it. especially a millennial, growing up connected with things like facebook’s newsfeed, i just want to skip to the level 30 and start from there. to bypass the profile info, the ‘what you did today’ narrative. i just want to know that info. for it to be told to me instantly so we can jump ahead and talk about things that really matter, about emotions, how things made you feel, how we can work together, what goals we share. we (people today) are busy and have less and less time with others, to grow we need to be able to get to the substance as quick as possible.

    that’s how we create trust and honesty, i want to jump start it.

    when you share things on twitter, on your blog, about your life, allowing people in, you’re opening the door and making it possible for people to have a meaningful interaction with you. isn’t that what you want – to start the relationship at a higher lever. isn’t that what social media is all about. – sharing and connecting with a person or brand through means never before possible, except in person, to creating an emotional connection. a desire. an attraction.

    … i wish people would carry a dossier everywhere so we could make this initial jump without having to go home and research them online.

    to conclude, when my gf and i first started talking, one night while i was working on a project, i encouraged her to look at all my photos, read essays i’d written, journal entries, my blog -i wanted her to get to know me as soon as possible so i didn’t waste her time or mine with something that wasn’t going to work out. when we started having the pillow talks they started at a much higher level. because of this and continued honesty and openness, i believe we know each other far better than some couples who have been together for 10 years. – the same thing can be applied to business relationship.

     

    • dirty_snowflake 7:10 pm on January 8, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      “when we started having the pillow talks they started at a much higher lever.”

      Lol. I’m pretty certain you meant level instead of lever, but higher lever does conjure up an interesting image.

    • dirty_snowflake 6:10 pm on January 8, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      “when we started having the pillow talks they started at a much higher lever.”

      Lol. I'm pretty certain you meant level instead of lever, but higher lever does conjure up an interesting image.

    • John Erik 12:24 am on January 9, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      ah. ha. thanks for the tip, snowflake. fixed.

    • John Erik 11:24 pm on January 8, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      ah. ha. thanks for the tip, snowflake. fixed.

    • Valeria Maltoni 6:47 pm on February 23, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      The experience of a person – in business or otherwise, as you suggest – is always private, different, and in the moment. Although I agree, there are more ways to get to see/read/hear what another thinks today, many a public persona are still small slices of the person in front of you. Aside from the thought that some public info is ‘engineered’ – even unconsciously – to be… public, one changes depending on the interaction. People also change depending on how we think about them.

      Lots here to get into, I recently wrote a post myself about revealing yourself to others.

    • Valeria Maltoni 5:47 pm on February 23, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      The experience of a person – in business or otherwise, as you suggest – is always private, different, and in the moment. Although I agree, there are more ways to get to see/read/hear what another thinks today, many a public persona are still small slices of the person in front of you. Aside from the thought that some public info is 'engineered' – even unconsciously – to be… public, one changes depending on the interaction. People also change depending on how we think about them.

      Lots here to get into, I recently wrote a post myself about revealing yourself to others.

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